Barn Charm # 68

I have featured these barns before.

However, I thought I would show them as the seasons change.

These were taken after a might snowstorm had hit

and it was finally safe to venture out on hilly side roads.

This barn apparently got hit hard last summer in the brutal storm that torpedoed

through the Midwest.

There are actually two separately owned farms here.

The one on the left is comprised of four farms and a brick homestead.

The one on the right is the only one for its very small 'farm'.

This is one of my favorites. 

 People always comment on how close it is to the road.

This is part of a farm that is directly across the road from the barn

in the previous picture.  

The road winds up behind it to yet another 'homestead'.

Some day I hope to take that road.

For more barns,

please visit Tricia's blog.

Underage Drinking and Rape and Monday's Prayer

Attention: This is long.  To expedite your reading, I have used bold font and 
different  colors.  The blue signifies a news report.  The purple color signifies
a story from my own school district that we are dealing with now.  The prayer
and scripture is at the end.

Stuebenville, Ohio.  It's where my parents grew up.  It's a steel mill town
 with the mill across the Ohio River in Weirton, WV.  My dad and all my
 uncles worked there.Many of my cousins ended up there too.
My brothers got their fill during their summers
until college graduation.

Those mill days of big money, union power, and fantastic pensions are over.
However Steubenville still exists and is still incredibly proud of their
Big Red football team.  My 80-some aunt still listened to the games
on the radio and died a true fan.

But Big Red has become internationally known due to an infamous party night in which
two football players digitally raped a 16 yr. old girl who was so drunk she passed out.
She woke up naked on a couch in a strange house with no recollection of what
had happened.  She went home and then the texts and Facebook reports started
coming in.  She was sent a horrifying one of herself taken at yet another house. She started at
one house and was taken to at least one other.

One of the boys took a picture and sent it out to make the rounds of many phones.
The boys reported on themselves.  Social media revealed what she could not remember.
She and her family had no intention of filing charges.  But social media took it to where
the authorities had to intervene.  Investigations and charges resulted.

Today, the boys were found delinquent (guilty).  The one boy got two charges and a minimum
of two years in a juvenile facility (his photo of a sexually explicit material with a minor
earned him the separate charge and the second year.)
Both boys are under 18.
Neither boy apologized until the verdict was read. The sentencing had not occurred yet. Only one sounded sincere according to reports.


From the news:

The victim's mother also had a statement for the two defendants, Ma’Lik Richmond, 16, and Trent Mays, 17, who were immediately sentenced to one and two years, respectively, in juvenile detention. (Mays received an additional year because he was also convicted of using nudity-oriented material, in the form of pictures of the girl on his cellphone.)

“It did not matter what school you went to, what city you lived in, or what sport you’ve played," the victim's mother said. "Human compassion is not taught by a teacher, a coach or a parent.  It is a God-given gift instilled in all of us. You displayed not only a lack of this compassion but a lack of any moral code."

Two witnesses testified that the defendants sexually assaulted the girl during a night of partying on Aug. 11 and used their cellphones to take pictures of the incident. Those images went public and ultimately contributed to the case's notoriety.

"Your decisions that night affected countless lives including those most dear to you," the victim's mother continued. "You were your own accuser through the social media that you chose to publish your criminal conduct on.

"This does not define who my daughter is,” the mother said. Emotion then briefly rippled through her voice. “She will persevere, grow, and move on.

"I have pity for you both. I hope you fear the Lord, repent for your actions, and pray hard for his forgiveness.”

Both boys cried after the verdict was read and apologized.

“I would truly like to apologize,” Mays said. “No pictures should have been sent around, let alone have been taken.”  (I've checked several sources and this is being written as his sole apology--I also watched a video of him saying it.  He does not apologize for anything done to her other than taking and sending a picture! )

Richmond broke down sobbing as he tried to speak. “I would like to say I had no intentions to do anything like that,” he said. [This young man walked across the court and faced the girl's parents.  The girl was not there today. He is black and the other one is white and the girl is white. ] 

I was watching a commentator when one of the pictures of the girl flashed across the video.  I had read about this pic, but to see it is just vile.  One boy had hold of her legs and the other her arms.  She was clothed.  However, her body was limp and her had hung down--she had either passed out or was nearly there.

I liked what State Attorney DeWine said in his statements after the trial:
"This happens every weekend all over America.   Every Friday and Sat. night kids are getting drunk and rapes are occurring."    He wants the people of the United States to quit focusing on Steubenville and start looking around their own towns."
He also made quite clear that digital penetration is rape. That is a shocker to some.
[He said much more and I'm sure if you Google his name and/or Steubenville rape trial, you can
get more info.]

Now here at home:
There was a party last weekend  in which a boy invited 3 or 4 kids to.  His parents were gone.
Thirty kids showed up.  Most if not all of them drank. The house got a bit messed up. The kid
couldn't control it. These kids go to the high school where I teach.
It was leaked on Facebook and his and two other boys' names were cited.  School officials--
the athletic director, the principal, and a discipline committee-- had to investigate.  The boys
admitted to drinking.  All three are athletes and will be banned from a number of baseball
games.
Guess what the one boy is saying?
He said it to me: "Someone ratted on us.  Thirty kids were drinking, but we are the only ones 
who are being punished because we won't rat on the others.
He showed no remorse.  He is instead saying that the athletic director has been out to get him
all year.  He said the AD lied to the one boy and got him to confess and rat. No punishments were
supposed to happen.
That's not true. No promises were made. And if someone would name the others, they would
get the same treatment.
The boy can be a bully.  The other two boys can be quite obnoxious and kids don't feel any loyalty
to them.  That's most likely why they got ratted on--they were 'a pain' to  some kids and the kids got
back at them.  Now they are saying they are the good guys because they won't rat.

1. Did sex occur?  Most likely. But that most certainly won't come out.  There is a loose attitude toward sex at our school. Some girls openly brag about giving b. jobs.    If one of those braggers became incapacitated and was raped by one or more boys, the feeling by many would be that it couldn't be rape. Disgusting and sad, but true.
2.  Did an adult supply the alcohol? Well, since they were all underage, someone over 21 had to.
3. Are the boy's parents punishing him for having the party? Oh yeah.  They trusted him and are quite upset.
(They are not asking for preferential treatment which is unfortunately the exception and not the rule.)
Fortunately for them, they were NOT there, sleeping in their bedroom unaware of underage drinking happening on their property.

The Steubenville case is not over.  A grand jury will be convened to further investigate a lot of other people and actions that night and the subsequent days.  A group called Anonymous made charges of cover up.
There are mixed opinions on this, obviously.  The prosecutors are saying that it was not a cover up but rather   a case of "first things first"--get the main culprits and then go after the rest.  Three teens were given immunity when they pleaded the fifth.   They had been open with the authorities until Anonymous got involved and then things got very 'chilly' as the assistant prosecuting attorney said. People stopped answering questions.
She feels that Anonymous made it into an international media circus and that made life so much harder for the victim.  It made their job of getting to the bottom of it that much harder too.  Sixteen people have refused to talk to them. Many others talked at first, but then stopped..   There will subpoenas and probably charges.

Things to consider: 
1.The teens who saw it happening and did NOTHING.  One teen girl told the girl she had to leave the house -- that her boyfriend was freaking out that his parents would find out.  So instead of helping a sister in need, she was trying to keep her boyfriend out of trouble because his house was one of the house's  the girl was taken to.
2. Why weren't the parents awakened?
3. Why weren't authorities called?
4. Why didn't someone take the girl home?
5. Why didn't someone call her parents?
Some girls said they tried to get her to not go with the guys, but their 'friend' refused to listen.  I'm not sure she could make a rational decision at that point--she was so drunk.
Some witnessed one of the boys try to force the girl to do a sex act on him and she was incoherent and could not walk at that point.  No one got her help.  No one stopped the boys.
5. Who supplied the alcohol? Everyone at the parties were underage or if they weren't, then they are in even more trouble.

So many questions are still unanswered.  I imagine there are a lot of adults and kids who are having difficulty sleeping tonight as they ponder what is in store for them.

But several things stand out to me as an educator: 
1. Many parents are not involved nearly enough in their kids' lives.
2.  Many of them lead by example: drug and alcohol abuse in front of their kids.
3. Curfews are not made or not enforced.
4. Teachers are supposed to do right by their kids and that often means to not enforce the rules--look the other way.  If not, we are out to get a kid.
5. More often than not, the only regret on the parents' and kids' parts are that they got caught--not that they did  wrong in the first place.

They didn't teach us this in college and it most certainly was not in the job description of what we as teachers and administrators would be required to handle.


Monday's Prayer

Lord, whenever grief over something that has happened tries to come back and torture us, 
I ask that You would take it away and give us peace.  Thank You that You are a compassionate God,
and You not only see our troubles and grief and understand our loss, but You extend Your hand to us and hear our prayers. I ask that You would unlock all the pain that is captured in our memories and set us free from it.  Help us to see that life goes on because You go on and Your compassion never fails.
Amen.

You, O God, do see trouble and grief; You consider it to take it in hand.  The victim commits himself to you; You are the helper of the fatherless.
Psalm 10:14 NIV


From A Book of Prayers for Emotional Wholeness 
by Stormie OMartian

Friday''s Photo Day

Tree across the street from my home

First shot is a pin-hole shot.

Second is a zoom-in with enhanced color.

From my walk through the neighborhood cemetery during our last big snowfall.

This mausoleum fascinated me.

Last day of testing! Hurray!

Corner View: Feet

Last week, the topic was hands,

so this week it is feet.

I wanted to take photos at school like I did with the hands,

but it's state testing week and everything is just a bit crazy.

So I perused recent family shots

and then spotlighted my son's  household's feet.

In the kitchen, the Irish lass is swirling in her purplish pink dress

accented with her striped socks. (Her shoes covered the socks when she went to school.)

Meanwhile, Dad's feet were snazzy as he watched her.

In the living room, the siblings and Grandpa lounged on the couch.

nine-year-old sis and fourteen-year-old brother

Grandpa and the seven-year-old-grandson.

My feet as they looked tonight.

These shoes are comfortable for work, though not particularly attractive.

Keeping warm in the early mornings

in heavy socks and quite old and worn and comfortable 'scuffs'.

Hubby's feet tonight.

Last but not least,

the four-legged inhabitants here

show off their front sets of feet (paws).

Scruffy the girl.

George the boy.

For more views on feet,

check out Francesca's place.

Barn Charm #67

This barn was on the same bit of land as last week's long barn,

but this one was set back quite a bit and obviously in much worse shape.

As regulars have probably figured out by now,

I cannot take just one picture, so here's this week's collection of this barn.

All the photos show the slope this barn was built on, 

but I think this one best shows the buckling of it.

It seems to be holding on for dear life!

This is my favorite shot of it.

As you can see, spring has not come to this part of Ohio yet.

For more barn views, check out Barn Charm.

Bits and Pieces, Prayer Request, and Monday's Prayer

Texas grandson Aaron's 4th birthday is today.

I will call him later this afternoon.

I created a Smilebox card for him and sent it yesterday.

I love Smilebox because you can do so much with it--
I use it to create slideshow cards,

which a certain little boy loves.

This past Tuesday, 

I bundled up and walked up the hill behind our house to the old cemetery there.

It was hopefully our last big snowfall.

Here are a few pics of my town.

I used my zoom lens to take them.

Once again, I was reminded of how much I love this place

where I live.

This is my co-teacher for one period.

He is an inclusion specialist and recently turned 29.

He is a wonderful young man who quickly became like a son to me.

Oh how we have laughed together!

However, he is not teaching right now 

because back in January, he was diagnosed with stage 3 lymphoma.

He is undergoing chemo.

Next week he will have a scan to see where the cancer stands:

if it is gone, improved, or the same.

Obviously we are praying for it being gone.

He still will have to have two more chemo treatments 

as a safeguard,

and his doctor does not want him to return this year.

But he is on the roster for next year.

Please lift him up in prayer.

State testing begins today.

I will do practice testing with freshmen.

The other English teacher has the sophomores in class,

so she handles their OGTs (Ohio Graduation Tests).

It's a cra -a-zy week!

Monday's Prayer:

Thank You, Jesus, that because I have received You, 

You have given me the authority to become a child of God,

because I believe in, adhere to, and rely on Your name.

Adapted for John 1:12

God, I pray that You will increase and I will decrease more and more.

Adapted from John 3:30

(Guess what book of the Bible I'm reading right now!) :>)

Blessings to you as you begin the week.

Corner View: Hands

This week's corner view's topic is hands,

I took my camera and headed out during my 8th period prep.

(Each teacher has one period for alone preparation time.)

Here's the result of my search for a variety of hands.

I focused on the female hand.

First women teachers

Math teacher's hand.  She's around 30 and engaged to be married this summer.

The female history teacher.  

She is in her early 30s.

She was on her way to an all day meeting outside of the school, 

but still school related--thus the casual jeans and shoes.

The female physical education and health teacher 

who is in her early 40s.

 This set of hands belongs to our guidance counselor.  She is in
her mid-fifties.

This ring was her mother's class ring.

 This set belongs to yours truly: me,,
who recently turned 59.
My hands look much older than my face and neck.  I have taken great care of the latter, but have neglected my hands terribly.
I am not fond of hand lotion,
although I will apply lotion twice daily to face, neck, arms, legs, and feet.

I get my nails done professionally every two weeks.  If I didn't do that,  the fingers would be chipped and bloodied because I would chew my nails down to the quick.

 Now a variety of females students' hands----

18 

17

17

16

Of course, one of the boys wanted his hand photographed,

so I obliged.

He is 17.

To finish up my post,

my 7-year-old grandson's hand.

For more views on hands,

head on over to Francesca's.

Barn Charm #66

If you follow South Chestnut out of town,

you will find yourself in the country before you have gone a mile.

I went for a drive the other day,

pulled into the Sewage Plant parking lot,

got out of my car,

and snapped this looong barn.

I got all sorts of shots and several angles of it.

This is the end looking back at it.
I drove the car down the road,
turned it around, and then stopped,
leaned far out my window like an idiot,
and got these two photos.

This is from the opposite end.

The barn is perplexing to me, because it gives mixed messages.

Some areas seem in good shape and then others are looking derelict.

There was hay in the far end, but also lots of brush and brambles 

leading up to the hay storage.

This end appeared to be in the best shape, yet also deserted.

It's a "Hmmm." for sure.

For more barn views, check out Tricia's place.

Busy Morning Ahead and Monday's Prayer

Busy morning with IEP meetings--writing new Individual Education Programs

for students with learning disabilities.

I am the core teacher for the first three meetings.

We have a sub rotating all day as the meetings will last that long.

The general population will not be happy 

because the library will be closed all day.

Therefore, there will be no access to the library computer lab

for study hall kids.

Monday's Prayer:

Lord, 

Help me to always seek Godly counsel 

and not look to the world 

and ungodly people for answers.

Thank you, Lord, that You will give me the counsel

and instructions I need.

I delight in Your law and in Your Word.

Help me to meditate on it day and night,

to ponder it, to speak it,

to memorize it, 

to get it into my soul and my heart.

Lord, I know that:

"whoever trusts in his own heart is a fool,

but whoever walks wisely will be delivered."

(Proverbs 28:26)

Help me to walk wisely and righteously 

in obedience to Your commands.

In Jesus' name I pray.

GOD'S PROMISE

You have made known to me the path of life;

You will fill me with joy in Your presence,

with eternal pleasures at Your right hand.

Psalm 16:11

from The Power of Praying:

Help for a Woman's Journey Through Life

by Stormie Omartian

Blessings to you all as you go through this week!